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Some people were loved partly through admiration for how little they seemed to require. They were the independent child, the mature one, the one who could entertain themselves, solve their own problems, tolerate disappoi...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/healing-from-the-emotional-suppression-of-being-the-easy-one","title":"Healing From the Emotional Suppression of Being the \"Easy One\"","summary":"Some people were loved partly through admiration for how little they seemed to require. They were the independent child, the mature one, the one who could entertain themselves, solve their own problems, tolerate disappoi...","date_modified":"2026-10-05T01:53:04Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-emotional-guardedness-can-feel-safer-than-intimacy","html_content":"

For some people, uncertainty is irritating. For others, it feels like weight hanging from something important, especially inside relationships where another person’s choices can affect whether connection feels stable or ...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-emotional-guardedness-can-feel-safer-than-intimacy","title":"Why Emotional Guardedness Can Feel Safer Than Intimacy","summary":"For some people, uncertainty is irritating. For others, it feels like weight hanging from something important, especially inside relationships where another person’s choices can affect whether connection feels stable or ...","date_modified":"2026-09-28T01:20:51Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/growing-up-different-than-your-family-wanted","html_content":"

Most families have an imagined future tucked somewhere inside the real one. Family expectations paint a picture of what their children might value, where they may live, whether they will marry, what kind of people they w...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/growing-up-different-than-your-family-wanted","title":"Growing Up Different From Your Family Expectations","summary":"Most families have an imagined future tucked somewhere inside the real one. Family expectations paint a picture of what their children might value, where they may live, whether they will marry, what kind of people they w...","date_modified":"2026-09-20T16:17:21Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-%E2%80%9Ci%E2%80%99m-fine%E2%80%9D-is-obviously-not-fine","html_content":"

Most of us know this conversation. Someone we care about looks tense, flat, unusually quiet, or like they are accomplishing ordinary tasks through a combination of muscle memory and stress. We ask, “What's wrong?” They i...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-%E2%80%9Ci%E2%80%99m-fine%E2%80%9D-is-obviously-not-fine","title":"When “I’m Fine” is Obviously Not Fine","summary":"Most of us know this conversation. Someone we care about looks tense, flat, unusually quiet, or like they are accomplishing ordinary tasks through a combination of muscle memory and stress. We ask, “What's wrong?” They i...","date_modified":"2026-09-13T14:57:59Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-self-abandonment-gets-confused-with-love","html_content":"

Some people learn to love by leaving themselves out of the relationship. They learn it early, usually for reasons that make considerably more sense in childhood than they do thirty years later, when the same strategy is ...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-self-abandonment-gets-confused-with-love","title":"Why Self-Abandonment Gets Confused With Love","summary":"Some people learn to love by leaving themselves out of the relationship. They learn it early, usually for reasons that make considerably more sense in childhood than they do thirty years later, when the same strategy is ...","date_modified":"2026-09-05T01:07:45Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/attachment-injury-in-marriage","html_content":"

Couples often come to therapy wanting to fix the marriage. They want communication to improve, affection to return, arguments to become less explosive, and daily life to stop feeling like everyone is quietly waiting for ...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/attachment-injury-in-marriage","title":"Attachment Injury in Marriage","summary":"Couples often come to therapy wanting to fix the marriage. They want communication to improve, affection to return, arguments to become less explosive, and daily life to stop feeling like everyone is quietly waiting for ...","date_modified":"2026-08-31T00:29:21Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/the-murkiness-of-emotional-neglect-pam-beesly","html_content":"

Emotional neglect is difficult to name because sometimes the central event is that there was no event. Nobody necessarily screamed, threatened, or delivered one cinematic betrayal with ominous music playing conveniently ...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/the-murkiness-of-emotional-neglect-pam-beesly","title":"The Murkiness of Emotional Neglect: Pam Beesly","summary":"Emotional neglect is difficult to name because sometimes the central event is that there was no event. Nobody necessarily screamed, threatened, or delivered one cinematic betrayal with ominous music playing conveniently ...","date_modified":"2026-08-23T14:57:32Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/religious-trauma-and-scrupulosity-the-conscience-fear-fusion","html_content":"

Healthy religion is not the subject of this post. Faith can provide meaning, belonging, comfort, moral grounding, accountability, and a way of understanding suffering that helps someone become more whole. I am talking ab...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/religious-trauma-and-scrupulosity-the-conscience-fear-fusion","title":"Religious Trauma and Scrupulosity: The Conscience-Fear Fusion","summary":"Healthy religion is not the subject of this post. Faith can provide meaning, belonging, comfort, moral grounding, accountability, and a way of understanding suffering that helps someone become more whole. I am talking ab...","date_modified":"2026-08-16T20:26:16Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/neurodivergence-and-misattunement-the-wounds-of-being-misread","html_content":"

When people hear the word trauma, they usually picture violence. Abuse, assault, a terrible accident, or something else large enough that nobody has to debate whether a nervous system might have been overwhelmed by it. T...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/neurodivergence-and-misattunement-the-wounds-of-being-misread","title":"Neurodivergence and Misattunement: The Wounds of Being Misread","summary":"When people hear the word trauma, they usually picture violence. Abuse, assault, a terrible accident, or something else large enough that nobody has to debate whether a nervous system might have been overwhelmed by it. T...","date_modified":"2026-08-10T03:14:33Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-some-people-cannot-relax-in-healthy-relationships","html_content":"

Some people enter a healthy relationship and continue behaving like the night watchman. The building is quiet, the doors are secure, and nobody is trying to climb through a window, but they keep walking the halls checkin...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-some-people-cannot-relax-in-healthy-relationships","title":"Why Some People Cannot Relax in Healthy Relationships","summary":"Some people enter a healthy relationship and continue behaving like the night watchman. The building is quiet, the doors are secure, and nobody is trying to climb through a window, but they keep walking the halls checkin...","date_modified":"2026-08-02T22:24:51Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/the-cost-of-being-the-good-child","html_content":"

Some children adapt to a chaotic family by becoming visually similar to the wallpaper. They do not disappear completely because they still need connection, but they learn to soften their edges, mute their needs, and avoi...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/the-cost-of-being-the-good-child","title":"The Cost of Being the \"Good\" Child","summary":"Some children adapt to a chaotic family by becoming visually similar to the wallpaper. They do not disappear completely because they still need connection, but they learn to soften their edges, mute their needs, and avoi...","date_modified":"2026-07-26T20:33:48Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-attachment-wounds-hide-inside-%E2%80%9Chigh-functioning%E2%80%9D-adulthood","html_content":"

Some attachment wounds look less like dysfunction and more like the person everyone trusts to handle dysfunction. They are productive, responsible, calm under pressure, and unusually good at turning a messy problem into ...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-attachment-wounds-hide-inside-%E2%80%9Chigh-functioning%E2%80%9D-adulthood","title":"When Attachment Wounds Hide Inside “High-Functioning” Adulthood","summary":"Some attachment wounds look less like dysfunction and more like the person everyone trusts to handle dysfunction. They are productive, responsible, calm under pressure, and unusually good at turning a messy problem into ...","date_modified":"2026-07-19T12:58:00Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-being-needed-feels-safer-than-being-loved","html_content":"

Being needed can feel much safer than being loved because need has receipts. If someone depends on you, you can see the evidence. They call when things fall apart, ask what you think, and their life runs better because y...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-being-needed-feels-safer-than-being-loved","title":"When Being Needed Feels Safer Than Being Loved","summary":"Being needed can feel much safer than being loved because need has receipts. If someone depends on you, you can see the evidence. They call when things fall apart, ask what you think, and their life runs better because y...","date_modified":"2026-07-12T20:28:20Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/trust-and-repair-security-built-on-imperfection","html_content":"

A lot of people think secure attachment means finding a relationship where nobody ever really gets it wrong. No missed cues. No sharp tone. No weird defensive moment where somebody says something dumb because they are ti...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/trust-and-repair-security-built-on-imperfection","title":"Trust and Repair: Security Built on Imperfection","summary":"A lot of people think secure attachment means finding a relationship where nobody ever really gets it wrong. No missed cues. No sharp tone. No weird defensive moment where somebody says something dumb because they are ti...","date_modified":"2026-07-06T00:56:46Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/what-makes-emotional-neglect-so-difficult-to-recover-from","html_content":"

Emotional neglect can be harder to name than overt trauma because it often leaves you hurt without giving you a clean story about why. No one may have screamed. No one may have hit. No one may have thrown a lamp and turn...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/what-makes-emotional-neglect-so-difficult-to-recover-from","title":"What Makes Emotional Neglect So Difficult to Recover From","summary":"Emotional neglect can be harder to name than overt trauma because it often leaves you hurt without giving you a clean story about why. No one may have screamed. No one may have hit. No one may have thrown a lamp and turn...","date_modified":"2026-06-29T00:30:14Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/religious-trauma-when-faith-is-the-only-regulation-allowed","html_content":"

Some people were not taught faith as comfort. They were taught faith as pressure.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/religious-trauma-when-faith-is-the-only-regulation-allowed","title":"Religious Trauma: When Faith is the Only Regulation Allowed","summary":"Some people were not taught faith as comfort. They were taught faith as pressure.","date_modified":"2026-06-21T14:42:33Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/how-reactions-to-neurodivergence-lead-to-attachment-wounds","html_content":"

A lot of neurodivergent people were treated like behavior problems before anyone realized they were overloaded.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/how-reactions-to-neurodivergence-lead-to-attachment-wounds","title":"How Reactions to Neurodivergence Lead to Attachment Wounds","summary":"A lot of neurodivergent people were treated like behavior problems before anyone realized they were overloaded.","date_modified":"2026-06-14T14:33:20Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-being-capable-is-how-you-keep-yourself-calm","html_content":"

Some people do not just use competence to get through life. They use it to regulate themselves. They stay useful, prepared, productive, and in control because handling things helps them feel less anxious, less exposed, a...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-being-capable-is-how-you-keep-yourself-calm","title":"When Being Capable Is How You Keep Yourself Calm ","summary":"Some people do not just use competence to get through life. They use it to regulate themselves. They stay useful, prepared, productive, and in control because handling things helps them feel less anxious, less exposed, a...","date_modified":"2026-06-07T20:30:26Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-insight-doesnt-stop-you-from-feeling-stuck","html_content":"

Sometimes the problem is not insight.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-insight-doesnt-stop-you-from-feeling-stuck","title":"When Insight Doesn't Stop You From Feeling Stuck","summary":"Sometimes the problem is not insight.","date_modified":"2026-05-31T14:28:01Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/can-emdr-intensives-help-with-childhood-trauma-and-developmental","html_content":"

Yes.

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If you are considering an EMDR intensive, you probably want a clearer answer than “it’s deep work.”

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/what-to-expect-before-during-and-after-an-emdr-intensive","title":"What to Expect Before, During, and After an EMDR Intensive","summary":"If you are considering an EMDR intensive, you probably want a clearer answer than “it’s deep work.”","date_modified":"2026-05-18T00:41:44Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-some-high-functioning-people-benefit-from-emdr-intensives","html_content":"

Some people are very good at functioning while still carrying a lot.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-some-high-functioning-people-benefit-from-emdr-intensives","title":"Why Some High-Functioning People Benefit from EMDR Intensives","summary":"Some people are very good at functioning while still carrying a lot.","date_modified":"2026-05-10T22:33:57Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/how-emdr-intensives-help-with-attachment-wounds","html_content":"

A lot of people hear “trauma therapy” and immediately think of the big obvious stuff. Car wrecks. Assault. Combat. Medical crises. One terrible thing that happened and changed everything.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/how-emdr-intensives-help-with-attachment-wounds","title":" How EMDR Intensives Help with Attachment Wound","summary":"A lot of people hear “trauma therapy” and immediately think of the big obvious stuff. Car wrecks. Assault. Combat. Medical crises. One terrible thing that happened and changed everything.","date_modified":"2026-05-04T01:16:11Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-trauma-work-can-feel-disjointed-in-weekly-therapy","html_content":"

If you have ever sat in therapy and thought, I am just now getting to the real thing, and now the hour is over, you are not imagining it.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-trauma-work-can-feel-disjointed-in-weekly-therapy","title":"Why Trauma Work Can Feel Disjointed in Weekly Therapy","summary":"If you have ever sat in therapy and thought, I am just now getting to the real thing, and now the hour is over, you are not imagining it.","date_modified":"2026-04-26T20:26:50Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/emdr-intensive-vs-weekly-therapy-which-makes-more-sense-for-you","html_content":"

If you are considering therapy for trauma, anxiety, or patterns that keep repeating in your life, you may have come across the idea of an EMDR intensive and wondered whether it makes more sense than weekly therapy.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/emdr-intensive-vs-weekly-therapy-which-makes-more-sense-for-you","title":"EMDR Intensive vs Weekly Therapy: Which Makes More Sense for You?","summary":"If you are considering therapy for trauma, anxiety, or patterns that keep repeating in your life, you may have come across the idea of an EMDR intensive and wondered whether it makes more sense than weekly therapy.","date_modified":"2026-04-20T02:12:19Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/are-emdr-intensives-too-intense","html_content":"

A lot of people hear EMDR intensive and immediately wonder whether it is just too much. Too many hours. Too much emotion. Too much all at once. That is a reasonable concern, especially if you already feel like your syste...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/are-emdr-intensives-too-intense","title":"Are EMDR Intensives Too Intense?","summary":"A lot of people hear EMDR intensive and immediately wonder whether it is just too much. Too many hours. Too much emotion. Too much all at once. That is a reasonable concern, especially if you already feel like your syste...","date_modified":"2026-04-13T01:34:14Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/what-actually-happens-in-an-emdr-intensive","html_content":"

If you have been curious about EMDR intensives, you are not alone. A lot of people hear the word intensive and picture something extreme, emotionally overwhelming, or impossible to tolerate. That is usually not what a we...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/what-actually-happens-in-an-emdr-intensive","title":"What Actually Happens in an EMDR Intensive?","summary":"If you have been curious about EMDR intensives, you are not alone. A lot of people hear the word intensive and picture something extreme, emotionally overwhelming, or impossible to tolerate. That is usually not what a we...","date_modified":"2026-04-06T01:06:50Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/how-to-know-if-you-are-a-good-fit-for-an-emdr-intensive","html_content":"

Not everyone needs an EMDR intensive.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/how-to-know-if-you-are-a-good-fit-for-an-emdr-intensive","title":"How to Know if You Are a Good Fit for an EMDR Intensive","summary":"Not everyone needs an EMDR intensive.","date_modified":"2026-03-31T18:02:00Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-emdr-intensives-help-overcome-start-stop-fatigue","html_content":"

There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from finally getting into something important in therapy, looking at the clock, and realizing you have about eight minutes left before you have to put your nervous syst...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-emdr-intensives-help-overcome-start-stop-fatigue","title":"Why EMDR Intensives Help Overcome Start-Stop Fatigue","summary":"There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from finally getting into something important in therapy, looking at the clock, and realizing you have about eight minutes left before you have to put your nervous syst...","date_modified":"2026-03-23T01:45:01Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/steve-harrington-a-case-study","html_content":"

Some people do not start out secure in relationships. They may look confident, function well, and come across as funny, capable, and good with people. Underneath that, though, they may still struggle with trust, vulnerab...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/steve-harrington-a-case-study","title":"Steve Harrington: A Case Study","summary":"Some people do not start out secure in relationships. They may look confident, function well, and come across as funny, capable, and good with people. Underneath that, though, they may still struggle with trust, vulnerab...","date_modified":"2026-03-17T17:38:10Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-safety-feels-unsafe-understanding-disorganized-attachment","html_content":"

What happens when someone wants connection but doesn’t feel safe trusting it?

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-safety-feels-unsafe-understanding-disorganized-attachment","title":"When Safety Feels Unsafe: Understanding Disorganized Attachment","summary":"What happens when someone wants connection but doesn’t feel safe trusting it?","date_modified":"2026-03-10T15:54:41Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/structural-attachment-identity-in-the-system","html_content":"

A common struggle in trauma treatment is a client with ongoing circumstances that are harmful or triggering without relief. Because attachment forms within relationships, or systems, and individuals make up those same re...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/structural-attachment-identity-in-the-system","title":"Structural Attachment: Identity in the System","summary":"A common struggle in trauma treatment is a client with ongoing circumstances that are harmful or triggering without relief. Because attachment forms within relationships, or systems, and individuals make up those same re...","date_modified":"2026-03-03T03:10:06Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/emdr-group-intensives","html_content":"

EMDR is a well-established therapy for trauma, and intensives can accelerate growth and healing with bursts of progress. Clients often benefit from extended sessions lengths to do deep-dives into their wounds.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/emdr-group-intensives","title":"EMDR Group Intensives","summary":"EMDR is a well-established therapy for trauma, and intensives can accelerate growth and healing with bursts of progress. Clients often benefit from extended sessions lengths to do deep-dives into their wounds. ","date_modified":"2026-02-23T02:35:14Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/understanding-robin%E2%80%99s-attachment-in-how-i-met-your-mother","html_content":"

Despite having what is probably the most hated television sitcom ending of all time, “How I Met Your Mother” did have quite a bit of comedy gold. In this post, however, I’m digging at a different element: attachment.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/understanding-robin%E2%80%99s-attachment-in-how-i-met-your-mother","title":"Understanding Robin’s Attachment in How I Met Your Mother","summary":"Despite having what is probably the most hated television sitcom ending of all time, “How I Met Your Mother” did have quite a bit of comedy gold. In this post, however, I’m digging at a different element: attachment. ","date_modified":"2026-02-16T03:50:23Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/%E2%80%9Cgood-will-hunting%E2%80%9D","html_content":"

Good Will Hunting is one of my favorite movies. It shows how trauma, attachment wounds, and healing can happen in real life—not just in textbooks. The movie doesn’t rely on heavy psychology terms, which makes it a great ...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/%E2%80%9Cgood-will-hunting%E2%80%9D","title":"“Good Will Hunting”","summary":"Good Will Hunting is one of my favorite movies. It shows how trauma, attachment wounds, and healing can happen in real life—not just in textbooks. The movie doesn’t rely on heavy psychology terms, which makes it a great ...","date_modified":"2026-02-09T02:17:16Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-family-first-means-me-first","html_content":"

When I teach clients about systems, I often ask if they’ve heard the phrase “family first.” Almost everyone has. Many people were even taught it as an important value.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/when-family-first-means-me-first","title":"When \"Family First\" Means \"Me First.\"","summary":"When I teach clients about systems, I often ask if they’ve heard the phrase “family first.” Almost everyone has. Many people were even taught it as an important value.","date_modified":"2026-02-03T18:07:04Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-stability-happens-over-time","html_content":"

Many people in the U.S. feel rushed to lock down their future. We hurry to make money, buy big things, fall in love, and feel better fast. But most of the time, this doesn’t work.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-stability-happens-over-time","title":"Why Stability Happens Over Time","summary":"Many people in the U.S. feel rushed to lock down their future. We hurry to make money, buy big things, fall in love, and feel better fast. But most of the time, this doesn’t work.","date_modified":"2026-01-26T02:22:16Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/the-systems-case-for-a-much-shorter-workweek","html_content":"

Good systems can’t fix everything. Life will always include struggle and pain. That’s part of how life works. Think of The Lion King: lions eat the antelope, lions die, and they become grass that the antelope eat. The cy...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/the-systems-case-for-a-much-shorter-workweek","title":"The Systems Case for a MUCH Shorter Workweek","summary":"Good systems can’t fix everything. Life will always include struggle and pain. That’s part of how life works. Think of The Lion King: lions eat the antelope, lions die, and they become grass that the antelope eat. The cy...","date_modified":"2026-01-18T15:49:23Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-understanding-systems-can-help-you-heal-from-trauma","html_content":"

When you’re healing from trauma, it can really help to understand something called systems.

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/why-understanding-systems-can-help-you-heal-from-trauma","title":"Why Understanding Systems Can Help You Heal From Trauma.","summary":"When you’re healing from trauma, it can really help to understand something called systems.","date_modified":"2026-01-11T03:48:51Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/emdr-intensives-a-general-overview","html_content":"

What Does an EMDR Intensive Session Look Like?

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/emdr-intensives-a-general-overview","title":"EMDR Intensives: A General Overview","summary":"What Does an EMDR Intensive Session Look Like?","date_modified":"2025-12-17T03:00:47Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/making-sense-of-disorganization","html_content":"

Disorganized attachment is a common aspect of complex trauma. This attachment style is marked by experiencing fear from figures that are also sources of safety and connection. This results in a sense of feeling anxious, ...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/making-sense-of-disorganization","title":"Making Sense of Disorganization","summary":"Disorganized attachment is a common aspect of complex trauma. This attachment style is marked by experiencing fear from figures that are also sources of safety and connection. This results in a sense of feeling anxious, ...","date_modified":"2025-12-13T03:25:18Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/interpersonal-neurobiology-the-gears-of-connection","html_content":"

To really understand attachment, it helps to know that it comes from the physical reactions our bodies and brains have during relationships. Dr. Daniel Siegel created the field of “interpersonal neurobiology” by studying...

","url":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/interpersonal-neurobiology-the-gears-of-connection","title":"Interpersonal Neurobiology: The Gears of Connection","summary":"To really understand attachment, it helps to know that it comes from the physical reactions our bodies and brains have during relationships. Dr. Daniel Siegel created the field of “interpersonal neurobiology” by studying...","date_modified":"2025-12-02T02:53:27Z"},{"id":"https://evexiacounseling.com/blog/f/connecting-with-the-avoidant-attached","html_content":"

For many people, “avoidant attachment” brings to mind someone who seems distant or emotionally unavailable. That’s not completely wrong, but it doesn’t capture what’s really going on underneath.

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Most who read this know what a table is and how it works. If we imagine a rectangular table at sitting height, with four legs, this is easy enough to picture mentally. And now we have a rough metaphor for a system such a...

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What Is an EMDR Intensive?

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Of the four broad categories of attachment styles, the first insecure type usually referred to is the Anxious Style. This is also known as the ambivalent attachment style. This style is developed when there is a sense of...

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Boundaries have been defined, but this category of posts is about structural dynamics. It’s time to lay out how boundaries, the building blocks of structural dynamics, lead to defining the concept. A major difference bet...

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You may have been told at some point, like many people, to have boundaries. This is often said in professional arenas, academia, or, of course, in therapy settings. The trick I often find when working with clients is tha...

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The word “Attachment” has become increasingly popular in the mental health field. It is especially common to be associated with trauma. And it’s an incredibly useful way of understanding the patterns of how people feel, ...

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I've established that EMDR is a trauma therapy that reconsolidates memory into a different format. I’ve touched on how trauma forms as a memory as well as how it shapes identity. Now I want to discuss how we prepare for ...

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